Sunday, October 5, 2025

Maybe It's Time to Play a New Game: Catan, Monopoly, and Government Shutdowns


Is it safe to assume there’s a copy of Monopoly somewhere in your home? There is a copy or two at my parent’s house and one at my in-law’s house. You can find the regular version and the Georgia Tech version, Techopoly, at my house.  

Do you enjoy playing Monopoly? Even though I will probably play the McDonald’s Monopoly game this week (returning October 6), I most likely won’t be playing the Monopoly board game any time soon. 


Growing up in the 1980s, after maturing past Chutes & Ladders, Candy Land, and Life, Monopoly was the game everyone was playing. If you’re like me then the dad of your best friend won big every time you stayed over at your friend’s house. Or your already-college-aged cousin completely dominated you and your siblings at family gatherings on Sunday afternoons and holidays. 


If I was going to play a game for hours on end and lose, could I at least be the race car? And who would ever want to be the thimble? Or the iron? 


Monopoly seemed like the perfect game for families to play growing up in a capitalistic economy. It never seemed strange to me that the game promoted and rewarded something that was actually illegal - outright monopolies. I wouldn’t have even thought of that except that my parents also had a copy of the Mad Magazine Game released in 1979 by Parker Brothers. It was a Monopoly parody. You won by being the first player to lose all of your money. Mad Magazine itself was, after all, a satirical media trying to laugh with irreverence at popular society. 


Satire presents you with humor and questions. Is Monopoly the game we ought to be playing? Is it time for a new game?


I’m glad you asked. If you have not heard of Catan, then it’s time to order a copy from Amazon. It’s also on the shelves at Wal-Mart, Target, Barnes and Noble, etc. 


Catan doesn’t yet have the ubiquitous presence of Monopoly, but Catan has been steadily gaining market strength since its release in 1995. I highly recommend playing Catan with your family. Let me know if you need to demo the game with us at our house! 


I love to play Catan (also known as The Settlers of Catan). I own a copy of the 3rd, 4th, and 5th editions. I would love to have one of the collectible 3-D editions, or a 1st edition. I also want to purchase a newly released 6th edition because, well, why not?


Why do I love this game so much? Probably because I am a nerd. But also because the game is exciting and fun. Each player is racing to ten victory points that you earn by settling the island of Catan. You must produce resources, and manage your resources well, so that you can build more settlements, turn your settlements into cities, build long roads, and have the largest army. Growth. Production. Expansion.


The board is too small, of course, for every player to be successful. You must play to win by subtly cutting off your opponents, indirectly dealing them damage and placing obstacles in their way. That’s what Eurogames are known for, indirect conflict. 


Sometimes the conflict does not feel so subtle and indirect. There will probably be an argument about the robber, probably between spouses. Tempers might flare because another player takes all the ore, or wheat, right before you attempt to build a city. 


I love the tension, the drama, and the suspense. 


Many people (fellow nerds) have written about the gameplay differences in Monopoly and Catan. The most interesting difference to me is this. The way to win in Monopoly is to eliminate your opponents. Monopoly is direct. I will overpower. I will take all of your things. I will destroy you. 


In Catan you are never eliminated. Even if you are stuck at three victory points while two other players are battling it out at eight or nine victory points, you still get to play. You still have a turn even if it’s clear you are going to lose the game. 


As a result, the social economy in Catan plays a huge and dynamic role. Part of every player’s turn involves willingly trading resources with other players. In many Catan games the winning players can only win because of trades they make with the losing players. 


Since you need each other to win, you do not behave arrogantly and you do not talk trash. Acting that way means, most likely, that no one in Catan will trade with you. No trades means no wins. 


Side note for families: the lack of player elimination is also why Catan is a much better family game than Monopoly. Not only does Catan end in only 60-90 minutes, you never lose your seat at the table. You always still have a role to play even if you are on the losing side of things. 


What does any of this have to do with a government shutdown? 


Is it too big of a stretch to say we need our elected leaders to start playing a different game? I would like to suggest a game where they aren’t trying to eliminate each other all the time. Most certainly I want to suggest a game where they aren’t demonizing each other all the time. 


I don’t know that much about government structure, so I wondered how the shutdown could even happen. Doesn’t one party currently control all parts of the federal government - the White House, the Senate, and the House of Representatives? Yes. 


Isn’t it interesting, then, that keeping the government open requires seven voices of the currently losing team to trade and work with the currently winning team? 


Almost every government leader I’ve heard, from almost every stance I’ve seen, currently seems to also be guilty of the criticism I am about to offer. Since the President is the leader at the top, however, I’ll focus the criticism on him for a minute. 


What if the President’s approach had been different over the last stretch of months? What would it be like if he wasn’t name-calling all the time? What would it be like if he wasn’t marginalizing others so much? I know you’ve heard it (“liberal left lunatics,” “I hate my opponents,” “I deserve a Nobel Peace Prize,” “my heart is bigger than yours”). If the President’s rhetoric and actions had been full of respect and courtesy, do you think other people would be more willing to help him, now that he is stuck in a position that requires their help? 


I am not talking about any policy or issue. I am not saying a Republican should be more progressive or that a Democrat should be more conservative. I don’t actually want to talk about progressive or conservative policies and positions at all. I just want to talk about the ways we talk about and treat each other. 


As it is the President consistently, and somewhat constantly, goes out of his way to belittle, insult, vilify, and denigrate his opponents. Is it any surprise that the losing team isn’t willing to trade anything with him?


Unfortunately, the direct-conflict-Monopoly-approach has made the President extremely popular in America. Likewise, any leader willing to stoop to that same level grows in popularity. It appears that we are entertained by and attracted to hate-filled fights. We seem to be a blood-thirsty people.  


Call me naive. Call me idealistic. I want change from all of our elected leaders. I want the leaders of our country to play a new game. I’ve grown weary of the old game. 


I want the genuine concern of others to have incredibly more influence. I want our leaders to argue and disagree while simultaneously showing respect to each other. I want our leaders to offer courtesy and dignity to people they don’t represent. I want our leaders to assume the best about each other rather than constantly calling out the worst traits of each other. 


I believe it’s better to play a new game, one where even the losing players are considered important. 











Saturday, September 13, 2025

Attempting to Reflect on the Horrific Events of this Week

In the work place, on the team, in the neighborhood, and in church we love to work and live alongside people who share credit when things go right and who accept blame when things go wrong. 

Jesus is the perfect example.

He didn’t do any of the wrong in my life. I am 100% responsible for every bad decision I have ever made and every sin I have committed. But Jesus, because he loved me, didn’t let the blame fall only on me. Instead Jesus went to the cross to bear my burden. Jesus paid the price for the wrong I have done.

Unlike me, Jesus never did anything wrong in his life. Jesus is perfect holy righteousness. Instead of taking all the credit for himself, Jesus shared his righteousness with me. Now when God looks at me he no longer sees my sin. God now sees the righteousness of Christ, not because of what I have done. I don't deserve it. I didn't earn it. It’s only because of who Jesus is and what Jesus did. 

Jesus takes on our blame, paying the price and punishment himself, and he shares his perfect righteousness with us. 2 Corinthians 5:21

In our American culture this week we all experienced evil, hatred, murder…so much wrong. Unfortunately we quickly jumped to placing blame on the others around us. This horrific tragedy happened and we think it’s the fault of some other ideology. It’s the fault of some other way of thinking. Our hearts fill with anger, seeking vengeance for some other side. 

Let’s take a different approach. Please. Everyone knows a heinous and wicked wrong occurred. Let’s take a share of the blame ourselves. Let’s own the part of this that is our fault. Let’s assume that within our own approach to life and politics there is a flaw. Let’s assume that we aren’t perfect. 

Since we aren’t perfect, let’s ask the Holy Spirit to show us the hatred living within our own hearts. Expose it. Bring it from the darkness into the light. Pray. Surrender. Repent. 

My mentor always said, “quit looking for the right one and be the right one.” If I can accept part of this American problem as my own problem, then I can ask for help in working out what’s wrong within my heart peacefully, lovingly, and rightly. 

Let’s not place the blame on “the others.” Let’s own our part, and surrender our hearts to Jesus. 


Sunday, May 25, 2025

Handwritten Recipe Cards

Forever resist the urge to type a recipe. You should always copy it in your handwriting, or even better ask the owner of the recipe to write out a copy for you. Then for the rest of time, when you need the recipe, it will be a wonderful handwritten treasure for you. 

I made some homemade ice cream tonight for Memorial Day Weekend. For years and years making homemade ice cream has been a family tradition for us on the big summer holidays: Memorial Day (beginning of summer), July 4th (middle of summer), and Labor Day (end of summer). There’s so much nostalgia in pouring the rock salt over the ice, turning on the motor, and waiting. I can still remember before there was a motor when my sisters and I had to take turns cranking the ice cream maker by hand. We all wanted a turn even though our arms would tire out so quickly. 

Making homemade ice cream makes me think of my father and mother sitting at the table in the kitchen at our Goldcup Court house where we lived from 1979 to 1992. I think of my mother’s cousin, Tim. Tim liked homemade peach ice cream. My Great Uncle Robert always had a soft serve ice cream maker at his pool. Aunt Shirley and Uncle Terry would put their ice cream maker in the garage to keep the noise outside of the house. 

One time my mother-in-law ran out of time to make some homemade ice cream so she bought Breyer’s Chocolate and put it in the stainless steel freezer can to make it look homemade. Believe it or not after one bite I knew it was impostor ice cream! 

In the summer of 1999, when Carin and I were dating, she invited me to come with her family to Uncle Howe’s Lake Burton house for the 4th of July fireworks. Of course Uncle Howe and Aunt Vicki made some homemade ice cream. Uncle Howe then waited in just the right spot for me to walk around the corner on the dock. When I turned that corner he dumped the leftover rock salt, ice, and below-freezing water all over me. I was stunned - and I will never forget it. 

All of these memories ran through my head tonight as I mixed together the ingredients for homemade ice cream. Even though I’ve made it about a hundred times before, I still read the recipe card over and over to make sure I did it just right. Our homemade ice cream recipe is written in Carin’s handwriting, with one note on the back in my handwriting (if you want chocolate just add a family size container of Hershey’s syrup before you start the motor). 

Carin copied our recipe for homemade ice cream from my mother’s recipe card. Carin’s copy now sits in the recipe box in our kitchen. Within that little box we have recipe cards written in both of our mother’s handwriting. There are recipe cards copied down by Aunt Diane, Aunt Marnie and many others. There’s even one in our daughter's childhood handwriting where she once copied one of her grandmother’s recipes that she wanted. 

I feel so loved thumbing through our recipe cards. There’s precious handwriting, precious memories, and really good food. 

Never type a recipe. Always copy it by hand, and then give it to someone you love.